Sunday, February 18, 2007

I am not...

your ex-wife.
your last bad relationship.
a gold-digger.
a bimbo.

trust yourself to know the difference!



Now, gentlemen... don't get all huffy on me here.
You can swap a couple of words up there and it
will fit the male situation too.

15 comments:

Grumpyunk said...

Don't have an ex wife. Still w/ the original issue.

Never had a serious relationship that was really bad.

Never had much Gold to dig.

You say Bimbo like it's a bad thing!

Sheesh. I must be missin' the point here, right?

Jean, Was gonna email you , but I don't see an addy. So I'll tell ya here. Thanks for your kind words lately re: My Buddy Steve. Means a lot more than you know. Unk

Jean said...

Unk - my email addy is on my profile page: BeauVoirGlass at aol dot com.
Missing the point?... well, people tend to label everyone by past bad experiences and consequently miss out on knowing good people. I'm thinking you are smarter than that.

Anonymous said...

He was never...
honest or truthful,
but was always,
attentive, thoughtful,
and caring.
Who would have thought
that guilt
could be
so motivating!

michele
http://lettersfromnyc.mu.nu

Sparrow said...

And I would add, of course, YOUR MOTHER.

Jean said...

Michele - I understand.
...and, thank you for visiting here.

Sparrow - hey, you can comment again!
Yeah, the mother thing can get in the way, too.

Bane said...

I never 'got' the whole 'mother' thing. I just used me dear auld mum as a standard to judge what to avoid. Except for the whole 'big tits' part.

Jean said...

Bane - perhaps more men should have your attitude.

Desert Cat said...

A couple of questions to toss out:

1) Exactly what is being referred to when women refer to "being his mother"?

2) Is there a distinction to be drawn between "being his mother" and "mothering him"?

Scott from Oregon said...

Getting older and contemplating getting back on the saddle reminds me that there are a lot of badly ridden horses out there...

But that isn't to say that they are all nags, of course...

My biggest distancing factor with women is their need to talk about what was...

But that's the age bracket I am now in...

sigh...

(warning. you are reading truth wrapped in cynicism)

Sparrow said...

DC, rather than use "mothering", how about "nurturing"? Yes, there is a big difference. By saying we are NOT your mother, we're just talking about whatever baggage came along with your attitude about women that was influenced by this most important female relative. For example, it's not my job to clean up your mess just because your mother never taught you responsibility for your own things. But it is my job to support and comfort you when that's needed. In the same way, we women shouldn't look to our men to be Daddy; we're adults, we should take responsibility for our actions and not wait to be "saved"; but we should expect to be protected and cherished.

Jean said...

DC - I think Sparrow covered it pretty well... we don't want to be compared to any other female, just to be loved for who we are.

Scott - I understand. Some info might be necessary... but, let it go already! Move on and focus on who you have right now.

AspergantuS said...

Jean ~I'm glad you're not my ex-wife, she was a BITCH...probably still is. The very reason she is an ex I reckon...

Jean said...

Mick - We all have bitchy moments, but I don't believe I've ever worn the label full-time. I hope.

og said...

I gotcha. Problem is,. each person comes with their own baggage, as a matched set. Sometimes the baggage you discover is similar to the baggage you already know, sometimes way different.

Your task, your choice, is to decide wose baggage you will carry, and do so with gladness. Remember, they have to carry yours in return, and don't be to damned judgemental about it either.

Jean said...

Og - couldn't agree with you more.